Drew Oakley

September 24th 2023

Bridging the gap between reality and expectations creates stress. This isn’t always a bad thing since this is how we grow. The problem arises when we do this over and over again. That’s called chronic stress. And it’s not good for you. And yes… there is a better way.

Discussion Questions:

  1. Reflecting on Expectations:

    • How do you personally relate to the unrealistic expectations Drew mentioned in the sermon (peer pressure, family, media, perfectionism, desire for control, external pressure, fear, self-unawareness)?

    • Have you ever found yourself setting unrealistic expectations due to any of these factors? Share a personal experience.

  2. Prioritizing Values:

    • What are your core values and priorities in life? How do these values influence your decision-making process?

    • Can you share a situation where your values clashed with external expectations or pressures? How did you handle it, and what did you learn from the experience?

  3. Aligning with God's Will:

    • If you're a Christian, how do you align your life with God's will? How does your faith influence your priorities and decision-making?

    • If you're not a Christian, what principles or values guide your life choices, and how do you ensure alignment with them?

  4. Setting Realistic Goals:

    • How can you apply the idea of setting realistic goals based on your values and priorities in your life? Do you currently have any goals that may need adjustment?

    • What steps can you take to reframe your expectations and create more realistic, achievable goals? Are there any specific areas you would like to work on?

  5. Practicing Contentment:

    • Share an instance when you found contentment in a situation where you previously had unrealistic expectations. What changed, and how did contentment benefit you?

    • What strategies can you implement to practice contentment in your daily life, even when faced with external pressures and unrealistic expectations?

Changing Your Mind

11 I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:11-13